How to get rid of your wife.

This was in my original blog which I have deleted. The story contunues. Now someone has come forward to inform that he had an affair (not sex yet but just girl/boy friend situation but enough to give suspicion)with the second wife originally. He first introduced to this young guy the 'husband' as her father. But one day the young guy went to her house and actually met the real father who is much older, married with a couple of young kids. Obviously the real father had married another women, younger, and nobody knew what happened to the girls real mother (the girl who took the 'husband'). Complicated isn't it. In fact the girl told her lover (or boyfriend) that her husband is cruel to her (the usual story in a love triangle) and she wanted the husband to divorce her so that she can now marry the boyfriend. (Quite a woman she is). But now the boyfriend has found out the real situation, he now wanted to help the first wife. The boyfriend knew that all the phone calls and the SMS messages were false and was a plot between the second wife and the boyfriend's sister. What makes the situation worse, the husband does not even know that his second wife has a boyfriend. The story will go on.

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How to get rid of your wife?

This is no insult to the women folks. I am writing this just to relate what actually happened and what can happen and what may happen and how to make it happen.

This is a very very old story repeated may times. It began even at the timesof Adam and Eve's children

There is this middle age guy who is very highly educated, highly respected, a specialist (well almost) in his field. He is trusted by the highest office in the country and even those in the defence industries ask him for advice when wanting to purchase very sophisticated modern defence equipment.

But he is just a human being, a man and when his manhood play a lot of parts in his life then something has to give.

He is from another part of the country, from the North say, and married to a girl from another part of the country, from he East say. The girl is very religious, both parents were supposedly to be very pious (Muslim wise) and she had been schooled in one of the top girl only school in the country. No blemish, character or physical wise and when she got married to him she was a virgin - just what he wanted and to everyone belief anyway.

He was one of the top student in a good school, and they met when they were studying overseas. Of course being away from home and being together over a period they felt in love. When he proposed to her parent (over here you do not propose to the girl but you propose to the parents to ask for the girls hands) the parent objected strongly. Reason? He was a "foreigner" - from the North. But he was really not a foreigner, a local lad who just happened to be born in a different part of the country. Same religion, same stock (Malays consider themselves of the same stock even if they are from the various islands of the Malay Archipelago). In reality his parents were only a couple of generations migrant from the islands, now in Indonesia.

Anyway he persisted and they got married. But tried as he could he could not get children. Whose fault? I did not go deep into that to find out. For a time they lived happily, he having a good job and she also having a job. Soon he wanted to go for further studies, to enhance his career and so they both went overseas again to further his studies and she to follow him. This time in another foreign country. Did she take up studies there? I do not know. Soon he got his highest qualification and came back. He rose in his career and she teaches in a school near where they live. Now this is when things started to happen. By now they managed to get children, first a girls and then a boy. And the wife's parents were still alive, but soon both of them died.

He being a young very highly qualified man was quite popular at his job, and he encountered many young ladies who are very impressed by his abilities and his deep knowledge of the subject he was involved him. He made a few conquest and I presume he began to like the variety. He came home late often, on the excuse to the wife of writing papers for seminars and he went outstation frequently, on Seminar assignments he told the wife. The wife being still quite innocent (and probably loved him greatly) believed in every story he related. And in the end he had an affair with an older woman, a foreigner but of the same stock. She being twice married earlier knew what she really wanted and soon they had a lurid affair, locally as well as overseas, which I presume no one knew. Even the wife did not know. Then one day she came to the house and announced that she was pregnant by the man. They had no alternative but to get married. (In Malaysia you should not get pregnant unless you are married, if you are a Muslim that is). What alternative has the wife got? Somehow the man and the new woman got married but nobody really knew where they got married. The old wife says that they got married in Jeddah, then in Bangkok and again in Jakarta. Its all wild guesses, but nobody knows whether they got married in Malaysia or not. Anyway, the man and the first wife have constant quarrels, sometimes in front of the children. Soon he moved out of the house (to avoid the quarrels I presume) and stayed with his newly married new wife. Now things get hotter. The first wife still wanted the husband and so forgave the husbands affairs, after all he is legally married now. (And in Malaysia Muslim woman believes that when she is in heaven for allowing the husband to take a second wife, she will have an umbrella made of gold. Is that true?) And the second wife came over to the first wife to apologise for their husbands misbehaviours (if you can call that affair as a misbehaviour).

After all these, the first wife had been receiving phone call and SMS messages in her handphone from a stranger telling her that he was interested in her. She being now quite lonely and confused responded and they arranged to meet after some time. They have never met earlier, they only communicated through SMS most of the time. She did not even know how he looked like. So without anyone knowing they arranged to meet at a hotel lobby in Kuala Lumpur. She went but he never turned up. Instead she saw her husband taking her photograph while she waited for her "man". That surprised her he she did not challenge him. She came back home empty handed. When challenged by the husband she told him everything. She asked for his forgiveness, which he reluctantly gave. Why did she asked for the forgiveness? I presume she had committed a sin just by having SMS communication with another man, a stranger at that.

What she got a few weeks later was a court order to go to the court as her husband now wanted to divorce her on the ground of infidelity. Did she really commit the infidelity? No one knows but the husband seems to know. He seems to know who the "man" is, how many times he called her, what were in the SMS to her and everything about the "affair". How did he know? No one knows as well. Suspicious isn't it? Complot? His plot? Was it the second wife's plot? No one can tell.

And he wanted the daughter now to live with him and his new wife. He got that. Then he filed a court order for the mother (his first wife) not to meet the daughter anymore. He got that. He also file another order for him to be the ex-party in looking after his son. What is ex-party? At the time of writing, the court order has been received by the wife and to be complied.

Both sides have lawyers working for them. He appointed his lawyers first and the ex-wife only appointed a lawyer just to defend herself from further suite by the husband.

An incident lately was most unbecoming of the husband, I think. Of course the ex-wife is also a guilty party here I suppose. She is trying to hold on to her son even though the ex-husband already have a court order. For fear of her life, as she is still living in the matrimonial home, she has a cousion living in with her. One night while she was away and the cousion came back to the house alone early, the ex-husband came. To collect to the son I presume. But the wife has now changed the locks to the gate and the door. He got annoyed and started kicking the door after jumping over the fence. All these were watched by the ex-wife's cousion inside, who was too frighten to open the door. The neighbours also came out. The ex-husband came with his new wife. In end he managed to get into the house after the ex-wife's relatives came. He pretended to be very innocent and went into the house. On seeing that his ex-wife and son were not in, he pretended to collect something from the house and left.

The children's ages, 6 for the girl and 4 for the boy.

What I am relating here is how to get rid of your wife.

Love her but have affairs meanwhile. Get someone pregnant, forced into a second marriage. Find excuses to accuse the first wife. Probably trap her into having an affair and divorce her on the pretense of infidelity. In that case you need not pay anything to your ex-wife. You collect everything, properties and the children. You leave your ex-wife with nothing but herself, if do not make her disappear. Live with your new wife, probably follow her every whims and fancy. Someone to share your short life now. What happen next? Find ways of getting rid of the new wife so that you get a newer wife.

Life goes on.
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